Thursday, June 13, 2013

Pantyhose Morality

I've had some interesting conversations recently on the topic of morality.  This topic comes up whenever anyone that values my opinion asks me if the manner in which they are behaving is right or wrong.  Clearly one would have to value my opinion to ask such a question, but regardless of the value hanging on my response I refuse to respond.  

The question of personal morality, or more simply put what is right vs. wrong for you as an individual, is a deeply personal thing, and while I can be a very opinionated person I refuse to cast my opinions on others.  I prefer to take a non-judgmental stance deferring judgement to that inner voice that resides within each of us.  

If only society would be so kind.  Societal norms will pick apart your personal morality and throw it back in your face.  In fact, when one person asks another "do you think what I am doing is wrong?", they are really asking for an interpretation relative to societal norms.  The question might better be phrased "do you think what I am doing is wrong in the eyes of most people?".  If you're asked such a question your judgement is clearly valued, but it is your judgement and interpretation of what is socially moral that is at the heart of this inquiry.

Those of us living a pantyhose lifestyle already reside within a fringe segment of society, so society be damned!  Listen to your inner voice and decide for yourself what fits with your own personal morality.  Consider this example.  On the morning after a party where you might have had one too many, did you ever wake up asking yourself "did I offend anyone"?  Alcohol can often loosen inhibitions and our tongues.  Did you say something you shouldn't have?  Your inner voice is doing some fact checking there and your inner voice can help guide you in advance as well. 

Should you wear pantyhose in public?  Let your inner voice check the facts.  How would you feel if noticed by... a coworker, a child, a senior citizen, your mother?  If these situations would make you uncomfortable, then perhaps wearing pantyhose in public doesn't fit well with your personal morality.  What about stealing pantyhose from your neighbor's washing line?  It might feel very exciting while partaking in the act, but how do you feel afterwards?  Do you discard and never want to see those hose again or is it still thrilling to have them?  Do you think the neighbor is complicit in tempting you?  That could certainly stir a thrill, but is she really or do you just hope that she is?  All these questions are for you to consider and decide for yourself whether the activity is right or wrong.

Pantyhose Share Club is a place where you can socialize with others living a similar lifestyle and debate questions of morality and virtually any topic of interest.  We maintain an open and honest environment free of judgement so you can feel comfortable expressing the person you are. 

We accept you because you're one of us, regardless of how skewed your personal morality might be relative to societal norms.  People on the fringe of society don't use societal norms as a yardstick, we create our own personal baseline.

I'm looking forward to sharing more with you soon.

J.

14 comments:

  1. surprized that no one has commented your most recent blog lots of immoral people out there perhaps. well if your a man wearing pantyhose i guess morality has kind of flown out the window to those who don't approve or think its wrong to do so. But I must say that your blog is very well written so therefore i give you a thumbs up for taking a stance on where to draw the line in pantyhoseland. just use some common sense and you'll stay out of troubles way, trouble free is the way to be. On this note I bid you farewell.

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  2. Another wonderful, thoughtful post J. I have had to come to terms with this type of morality repeatedly over my life. Is keeping pantyhose a secret from my wife bad? I finally came to the conclusion "yes, no, maybe." Yes, a secret in a relationship is bad. How would I feel if I found out my wife had a secret life of some sort? I would feel hurt she didn't trust me enough to share it. No because my wife has clearly stated she wants no part of this aspect of my sexuality. I see a great pair of legs in pantyhose, tights, heels, etc. and it is like art to me, just like great art in a museum gets me excited about seeing more. And maybe it is okay to have a specific secret if it keeps a great relationship going. In my case, the secret might be part of the allure, but that is a topic for a different day. When I have talked to my therapist about my pantyhose lifestyle, he is very accepting and keeps pointing me toward the deeper parts of my personality that this relates to. He is even open to just letting me talk about my "play" if it is in context of the session. This has helped greatly in taking the morality guilt out of the equation. Morality is always relative in my opinion. What works for me now, might not work in the future, but not because of guilt, because I keep growing and examining my own life. I couldn't do this if I just said "this is wrong" and rejected it.

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  3. AN and Paul, thanks for your comments. I am certain that many living a pantyhose lifestyle struggle with questions of right and wrong. Pantyhose may make them feel right, but expressing that might feel wrong. You both seem to have come to terms with this dilemma and for that I commend you. The very first step in the path to self actualization is acceptance of self. Since you've cleared this first hurdle, your advice to others that might be struggling with it will be invaluable. I appreciate you being active social members of Pantyhose Share Club, available to anyone struggling to come to terms with the lifestyle. We should not push this lifestyle on anyone, but I am confident you will prove to be a great resource to those seeking advice.

    Thanks.

    J.

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  4. I try not to be judgemental with others since I do not like to be judged myself by others. I am the only one to blame if I am not satisfied with who I am or what I do. I do not drink or do drugs but I still associate with people who seem to enjoy it. As long as I am not caught in the middle of negative issues, I could care less what people do.
    I have accepted my lifestyle and from VERY bad past experiences, I am not ready to share with just anyone. I feel we live in a society that is so judgemental because that person has to feel good about their selves somehow. I really wish it was not something that is held against a person but until things are accepted by society...
    I do not claim to be perfect, nor do I want to be since mistakes makes us stronger but wearing hosiery, I feel, does not hurt anyone in general.

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    1. Anonymous, I applaud your non-judgemental outlook. I think it is human nature to be critical of others and I know how difficult it can be to avoid that. It's worth making the effort, in my opinion, thank you for that. Like you, I do not wish to be perfect. There is much to learn from making mistakes and I enjoy learning. I do, however, wish to be accepted by society for the person I am, and that often means revealing only a portion of myself in my real life context. I see no need to discuss my pantyhose compulsion in the real world. My online world provides an outlet for this expression of self. I hope not to be judged for having made that decision.

      J.

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  5. I had to decide to listen to society or listen to me..I don't care who knows I have a pantyhsoe fetish now...http://pantyhose4u.blogspot.com

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  6. almostnaked oh my pantyhoseJune 30, 2013 at 5:24 AM

    i always kind of felt guilty when i took my mom brand new nylons cuz i could never put them back so i kept them i know she knows i was very naughty was tough for me to go and purchase form the store sometimes i had to go to this 7-11 and buy a pair in the big package from this indian guy it took some courage but i sometimes put them on there in the parking lot inside my car cuz i couldnt wait to get home. then when i got home i'd take my bike out for a pantyose funride wearing little else but shoes i was fearless. i recommend that anyone trys to do this at home. unless you live out in the boonies.

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  7. i read your blog & i agree that society is very judgemental . i judge nobody for it`s not my place . right or wrong ? my opinion , i love the pantyhose lifestyle . is freedom to me . i still keep my blinds open & don`t care what ppl think . we all only live once & i`m going to enjoy myself . oh , ps , thought your blog is professionally done . good job ...:)

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  8. Some of society is not necessarily judgmental as they are resistant to change, especially when it comes to these types of issues. I count myself lucky because I don't have to worry about what anyone thinks, I wear PH because I have moderate varicose veins, and upon request can provide a note from the Dr. that they are needed for a medical condition.

    I have to ease my wife into this situation. She is not thrilled, but does her best to understand. Mostly I think it has more to do with the change in the acceptable attire for men.

    I was just reading about the health benefits for people that have healthy legs.

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  9. well pantyhose and tights when worn by men and women should be accepted in society without ridicule and labeling but society looks down upon us that wear. There are a minority that choose to wear exposing the private areas in pictures that offends women so men will never be accepted wearing unless they dress properly and it comes to pictures why don't they have ones that shows what they got to those women that want to see that but that's only my opinion I see this on here profiles with a pic showing all

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  10. The issue with men wearing pantyhose is: The stigma that you might be gay. The other is: The guilt you feel after relieving yourself from masturbation. I stopped feeling guilty about masturbation 50 years ago. I enjoy the feel and support and especially the nice look of the nylon and spandex. They even look better with high heels....

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  11. These days, anything goes. If the DIAGNOSTIC STATISTICAL MANUAL of disorders says that it is a type of "impropriety" then I can think of many different types of people who have disorders that you can find exceptionally more profound. "Fetishism's are a minor league issue.

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  12. Hey, thanks for the thoughtful post. It's not only something that men face, I get people asking me if I am doing pantyhose photos because there is a guy out there who is either paying me or dating me, etc. Somehow they just can't grasp that pantyhose can be fun.

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  13. I have almost 200 pairs of pantyhose n tights n i love wearing them ..yes it gives my legs are good tone n yet their comfy , keep me dry n helps with circulation....I don't care who knows....

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J.